IMPORTANT: So they had these cards in the women’s restrooms at this doctor’s office that I was at. I’m really happy that they put them in there because it makes it easier for a woman to escape an abusive relationship without the abuser expecting anything. It gives me hope when I see things like this.

Oh yes, because women are never abusers.

I never said that they can’t/ aren’t. I’m well aware that some women are. I was just trying to talk about a positive thing that I found in a restroom. Don’t turn my post into something that it’s not. God fucking damn it, it’s like you can’t talk about something positive on this site without someone trying to ruin it or twist the original posters words.

Thank you so much for the positive post, and the VERY true words at the asshole commenting on your post. This is the exact reason why I don’t like this website sometimes. Christ.

If you have to qualify Situation A with “but Situation B happens, too,” do you actually give a shit about Situation B? Or are you looking for ways to derail Situation A?


40% of domestic violence is experienced by men, do you suppose they also put these cards in the men’s restroom?

Wouldn’t seeing these cards in the restroom alert abusers that there were probably the same cards in the other gender restroom, possibly making them more violent and cutting off their partner even more from resources that could help them?

This seems ill thought out. Unless, of course, they are only in the women’s restroom. In which case they are ignoring 40% of domestic violence victims. I wonder why.

getting really tired of this 40% myth and how frequently everyone scrambles to believe it because they want to look reasonable and fair.

While some people may believe that there is a higher reported incidence of women experiencing violence by their male partners due to men underreporting when they are victims, the reality is the opposite. In 2008, 72 percent of the intimate partner violence against males and 49 percent of the intimate partner violence against females was reported to police.Catalano, Smith, Snyder, & Rand (2009). Bureau of Justice Statistics Selected Findings: Female Victims of Domestic Violence. U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, NCJ 228356.

Researcher Elspeth McInnes…  recounts some of her research that showed that when men talked about women’s violence against men, some cited abuse as not having a hot meal on the table, not having the children bathed before bed, or women spending money on gambling or shopping. At the more severe end of the spectrum, they nominated verbal and emotional violence as abuse. Then, a tiny minority documented physical abuse, and an even smaller minority named sexual abuse. 

“Women were talking about being run over, being drugged and raped at knifepoint, having their children dangled over high rise balconies till they did as they were told and of course you get verbal and emotional violence,” says McInnes. “When we were talking about physical violence against men, one of the worst examples was that she banged his head with the cupboard door – which isn’t good – but the sheer level of fear, harm and terror that women talked about was simply not present in what the men’s data showed.” 

The vast majority of domestic assaults are committed by men. Even when men are victimized, 10% are assaulted by another man. In contrast, only 2% of women who are victimized are assaulted by another woman.2

Two studies have found that at least 40% of police officer families experience domestic violence, (1, 2) in contrast to 10% of families in the general population.(3) A third study of older and more experienced officers found a rate of 24% (4), indicating that domestic violence is 2-4 times more common among police families than American families in general.

in conclusion while domestic abuse hotlines in men’s bathrooms would be great too, women are the majority of victims of violent, life-threatening domestic abuse by a lot more than 40%, and men are still the majority of perpetrators of violent, life threatening domestic abuse, even to other men and boys. this is not a remotely equivalent situation.

using abused men and boys to prop up the myth that women abuse men right back nearly as much is toxic, abhorrent nonsense. we need to cut it the fuck out. 




Bradley Cooper and Vin Diesel 

Speaking their lines vs the final product

Why is Vin Diesel looking down? Is he worried he’s gonna forget his line?

Vin Diesel asked the director his inspiration for every line he did and did multiple takes until he was satisfied. He also recorded the line over 1,000 times and also recorded his lines in Mandarin, Portuguese, French, and Spanish so they could use his real voice in those versions. He’s looking at his lines because Vin Diesel is a  dedicated  motherfucking professional


my blog is like this fucking grab bag except you never exactly know what you’re going to get in said bag

is it fandom???

is it feminist rants???

is it food???

who knows you could probably find a fucking crocodile in there

(Source: 8bitflowers)




why can’t hurricane names be culturally diverse

hurricane muhammad

hurricane shaniqua 

hurricane nguyen 

because white people destroy everything.



not again

There was a space
I left when I left
That quickly filled
But I came back
To look back
And feel something
I looked and I found
No room for me to be
But I didn’t give up
I chose not to see
And I pushed and squirmed
Apparently under your thumb
To fit back home where I belong
But it was too small
I was crushed
So I panicked and cried
Because I squeezed in
To try and fit home
It looked like your fault
But was mine
Because I left and I lost
And then I forgot
There will never be room for me
And I apologize for hoping
To come back
It was uncalled for

I rub my eyes

Am I waking up
Or falling back into a dream?
I feel so happy
But its not as perfect
As It would seem.
Dont get me wrong
I can’t deny
I feel a twinkle
In my eye.
A skip in my heart
A ghost on my lips.
A bit of regret
Still lingers on.
But then again
Its not unreasonable
When our love is almost seasonal.
I don’t even know what I feel
When I smell him on you
I don’t remember what’s real.
I wish I hadn’t noticed.
But what could I really expect.
You’re only human and you’ve got human needs
I don’t give a fuck about fucking
And over feel about feeling
I’ll take what I can get
From the angel with my heart
Because I don’t know if I can take that back
I tried a few times
To no real result
To move on forward and away
Only to find the place that’s my home
Rarely lasts a day
But my heart and my love
Have some heart of their own
With a diamond of hope
That something might happen
Because were so close
But we’re live wires flailing around
Colleges states apart
But our red strings of fate
Are the bloody strings of our heart
That creaked and strained In those months apart
And the butterflies in my stomach
Whisper in my bones
That while you might be in other arms
They don’t fit like mine.
And its not the same
With their fingers and your spine
But even though we need each other
We can’t need too much
Because the closer we get
The faster we go
And we shake and rattle and roll
Falling together and falling apart
Leaving is bitter and our mouths tart
But I love you
And while part of me wants to forget
I would do it all again
Because you make me feel